What’s New?!

Carole Morris
3 min readOct 9, 2020

Catching Up While Social Distancing

Image by Public Domain Pictures from Pixabay

The group get-togethers have been replaced by one-on-one phone calls, and I love one-on-ones. Yet, I’m exhausted. Like many of us that lean more introverted, I get my energy from solitude and expend energy during interactions. Even introverts like people. Sometimes it’s hard to tell, I know.

Image by Erika Varga from Pixabay

The phone calls, though. I rarely answer the phone spontaneously — it’s not like I’m sitting around doing nothing waiting for it to ring. I am doing something on which I am focused, and I don’t easily switch gears on the fly. And so far in my life, I haven’t missed an urgent call. Sure, there was the time my daughter was in Chile during the 8.9 earthquake and I chose not to run to the phone since I was already one foot into the shower. I didn’t know it was her, and while I was mad at myself when I realized I’d missed a window of her limited availability, to this day I still have her voice message that helped me know she was strong and capable and handling it. So yes, there was one time — sort of.

Most who know me well know that they will have more luck catching me if they text me before calling. It gives me a chance to bookmark my spot, drive another nail, finish my dog’s walk, or wrap up what I’m writing and be fully present for the call. I can also try to set expectations — “Sure, give me 5 minutes and then I’m free for 30!” I can also take that pause to set my mind in a better place than my first reaction to “let’s catch up!”

Because “let’s catch up” usually goes something like this:

Other Person (OP): I tried almonds in my banana bread instead of walnuts. It wasn’t bad.

Me: I’m sorry, did you say something?

OP: Binge-watch anything good?

Me: Not lately. You?

OP: Blah-blah-blah-blah-blah

Me: I’m, sorry, did you say something?

OP: So, what’s new?

Me: Um — I’m really shaking it up over here. Instead of leave-in, then oil, then curl cream, I tried leave-in, curl cream, then oil! I prefer the tried and true LOC method.

OP: I’m sorry, did you say something?

Riveting.

Image by Наталия Когут from Pixabay

When life is a version of Ground Hog Day, the movie — “What’s new?” is a really tough question.

What isn’t a do-over from yesterday, has become a real-life episode of Seinfeld.

So fine, go ahead and ask me, “What’s new?” Ask if I want to catch up! Just be sure to mute yourself so I don’t hear you snore.

Still, it was nice catching up with you.

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Carole Morris

Living everyday like it’s Saturday: retired. I was born for this.